Hey there, wow I forgot I even had this journal, in fact lj was just about to delete it. Just want thank you for your comment, though I'm very sorry you're in the same boat. I don't usually like reading my old entries because they can be such downers, but at least in this case it's nice to see I've gone in a gradual upward direction. Diagnoses have limited value but at least for me I think I was chronically mildly depressed for much of my life and did not realize it because I had no non-depressed comparison. It can seem like anyone's normal blue spell but not when it's drawn out and affecting your life, preventing you from living your potential. And definitely don't feel guilty about it, that just makes it worse and relativity doesn't really have a place with depression. Maybe you don't necessarily want to feel depressed, you just want to feel something other than numb and you don't have much experience with how to be happy. I didn't think I really feel happiness for a while, it just felt like excitement that was sometimes enjoyable and sometimes confusing, sometimes led to anxiety.
Anyway this sounds kind of patronizing, I don't really know your situation and I'm not saying I'm 100% happy and full of life, but I do think I'm better. I'm on Wellbutrin and Concerta and back in school, which is really hard but doesn't seem impossible. I think the Wellbutrin has made a big difference but subtly, like there is a ground beneath me now that wasn't there before. I still have moods and get depressed but don't dwell as much or get as listless as before, and when I do cry it does not feel like a flood that will never stop.
If you really feel this way I think you should see someone about it and don't downplay it or let your guilt affect your portrayal. It's all just static that shouldn't be in your life and you deserve to be free of it!
Wow, you did see! Thank you for responding. It's not patronizing at all to say that you're better now.. it's hopeful, knowing someone was in a similar situation for years and years also and is now doing better.
That's what I always wonder, if my lowered state of feeling is just sort of normal, or if I just don't know what it's like to not be a little depressed all the time, even in many of my "ups". And yeah, about wanting to feel something other than numb so the dark emotions feel better in comparison, if I don't truly feel I can have the light ones...yup.
Who did you go see to get the medication you're on? I've just quit going to a therapist I was seeing- it just didn't seem to be helping and I didn't feel comfortable enough with her to really open up, and she's still in training- but I want to find a new person to go to, and I'm considering seeing if medication might be a good option for me... so I'm wondering if I should make an appt. with a psychologist first, and then maybe have them suggest a psychiatrist or medical doctor to go to, or the other way around, or I know a lot of people start at a general practitioner, but I don't have one. Oh, and when did you start on the medication?
You don't have a new livejournal do you? Cause I'd add you as my friend.
I actually saw at least 4 psychologists/counselors that I didn't like before I found one I did like. The one I did like was a psychiatrist with a lot of experience, so maybe that's the difference. He also specialized in childhood trauma and I think I'm adolescent in a lot of ways so I felt like he really understood me. So maybe try hunting for someone you think you might relate to, most of them have specialties. But honestly, I think it's really hard to find someone in that role you can really connect with. I moved recently and started seeing a new counselor and it seemed totally lame; I don't think I'll bother again unless I really need it.
That said, I don't think you need to find a cosmic connection to get a lot out of therapy. You could start with a psychiatrist, nurse practitioner or pdoc, whichever is cheaper/easiest for you, to try out medication. When you meet with them focus on physical symptoms like if you are mostly tired or anxious etc. Then find a counselor who is experienced with clinical behavior therapy and/or mindfulness. They will at least give you some really helpful tools. Probably doesn't matter which order you do it, but if you can afford a psychiatrist they can double as your counselor which is nice.
Actually now that I think of it, probably ideal to meet with a psychiatrist since you haven't been through this before and it isn't really clear what the root of the problem is. I'd hate for you to get drugs from a pdoc and end up manic or something. :)
I think my most recent journal is adogablog, I haven't written in it forever and I'm sure all my old entries are terribly melodramatic lol. But I'll add you!
What's a pdoc?
I'm finding this looking for someone frustrating..I can find no or just tiny bits of information about any psychologist/psychiatrist online, when I call the people I talk to don't tell me anything specific about their counseling style, how they like to start things out, what types of people they work with...nothing. And then most of the places have between a two week to 3 month (!) wait to get an appointment. I've been trying to avoid seeing a social worker or other therapist with lower certifiication, though I know they could be just as good but at least that was so criteria to narrow down by.. ugh I don't know. And I'm trying to limit psychologist searches to women only, though maybe I shouldn't...I just feel with indepth talk therapy, certain issues I'd feel less comfortable talking to a man about..but maybe it wouldn't matter. And I don't even know if any of the psychiatrists really do ongoing talk therapy or what. :( Plus I feel stupid on the phone, with people acting like everything's so obvious and I feel stupid for my really general questions, but they give me little information no matter what. Shouldn't they be trying to tailor client to a best therapist?
That does sound frustrating...they should def. tell you about their counseling style so you can decide the best fit...definitely choose a woman if you think you'd be most comfortable, I think a lot of people are more comfortable with someone their gender. Maybe try telling the receptionist you've been having a hard time finding someone and maybe she can narrow it down for you? I dunno I guess I always just looked up someone online and blindly set up an appointment. Do you want to try cognitive therapy? That seems to be the rage, or mindfulness, maybe you could find someone who's very experienced with that kind of therapy and hope for the best.
Yea they all have long waiting lists, apparently most of the world is damaged mentally/emotionally lol, but once you get in they can usually see you regularly without the wait.
Pdoc is just primary care doc, if you already have one she might be able to write you a script. I'm getting my Rx's from my pdoc right now.
And yea I'm sure there are plenty of wonderful counselors/social workers out there, and usually much cheaper! You can always make an appointment and you don't have to go back if you don't connect.
How's grad school going? I just quit my job to focus on school :o let's hope that works out lol
Sorry I never replied to this..I've kept it in my inbox to do so in the future.
Yeah, I really don't get them not having a grasp on how their counselors operate, and after trying 2 I'm not sure if I should just keep on trying different ones or need to give them more of a chance or what.
I did not like cognitive-behavioral therapy when the free school counselor was trying it with me. I just wanted to rebel against it, focus in deeper on my past and who I am, not try to force my thoughts to go away without dealing with them. Part of it is probably that she was still in training, new at it, made it obvious that she was pulling stuff right from a book to try.
Then this second one though..we just talked. Talked and talked, and then the session was over and I never ended up bringing up things I wanted/needed to talk about..like going to a medical doctor/psychiatrist also, relationship stuff, etc. I felt she was helpful after my first session- I could immediately tell how much more experienced she was than the first one. But my second one was a rehash of the first session..very similar, I felt like nothing new was accomplished, and when I said I had a question I wanted to ask her at the end, she said we were already overtime and she wanted to eat lunch. We were overtime b/c her previous session had run over though, though granted the sessions did feel (and were) much longer than with the first girl. But it's been hard to find an appt. slot with her, and I got this impression that she's doesn't so much care whether her patients return or not. I don't know, I'm probably just being the way with therapists that I am with dating prospects- dismissal if not immediately perfect.
How is it working out focusing your attention on school? Grad school is..not going well for me. I'm about to drop out.